As a mom and the default parent, I often used to find myself going into the guilt rabbit hole, wondering if I had done enough, if I could have done better. For years, I found myself entangled in those thoughts of “could haves and should haves.” I would go down that spiral of self-criticism, how my mistakes had impacted on them, how I had failed on so many levels; it was never ending.
But as time went on, I began to realize something, despite
all the should haves' and could haves', my children had thrived.
They are healthy, all three of them pursuing higher
education, and most importantly, they are kind-hearted individuals who care
about the environment and everyone in it. Very recently, it dawned on me that perhaps, just perhaps, I had done a better job than I gave myself credit for.
For so long, I had held onto this idea that I was falling
short as a mother, a parent and that I had not done enough. But contrary to my
belief, I could not have done a better job.
Now, I allow myself to bask in the glory, in the pride of my
children's accomplishments. Now I have concluded that it was not despite my
parenting, but perhaps because of it, that they are better citizens of this
world. I have learned to celebrate the small victories and forgive myself for
the inevitable mistakes I made along the way.
So, to all the moms out there who find themselves going down this guilt rabbit hole, I urge you to take a step back. Take a good look at your children, see them for who they are. And remember, you did your best. You were present and that is something you should be proud of and give yourself credit for.
Here is a link to 25 years of being a mom in case you missed it.
https://www.rekhasrambling.com/2024/03/25-years-of-being-mom.html
“You question, you worry, you feel so worthless. Yet you are
living and breathing. You are following your purpose.” – Heather Lee Poetry.
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