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There!

 Watching "THIS IS US" these days , a TV show and one of the episodes is named "there". Didn't know what to expect until halfway through. One of the characters, Kevin, talks about his dad who is now deceased, about how he was the most "there" father, how he was always there for them!

It hit home. My siblings and I were, are blessed by the most "there" father ever, physically present dad. He was always there, did not miss anything. When and where I grew up, my father was ahead of his time to be always " there." That was not what fathers did back then. But my father did, he was always present, pushing us to do better, encouraging us in the most subtle ways. He didn't care that we were girls. He taught me to be curious, passed his love for books, reading and his legacy of journaling to me. He wanted me to touch the sky, aim high.

We may not have had money, but we had him, our rock. He was solid. He could make anything happen and he always did.

Fast forward,

The father of my children, he is a "there" father as well, but in different ways.

He couldn't physically be present even if he wanted to because of his job.

He couldn't always be there on the phone either because of his job, he literally works nights and days. He can't always answer the phone because he is busy saving lives. He is an ER doctor.

During the children’s school years, we had to schedule him to be "there" months in advance.

And he would be there, for their concerts, volunteering for the band competitions when he could.

We can't celebrate most of our special days on that day because of his job. So "Every day is special " has become our motto.

And he made up for his lack of physical presence in different ways.

He took us around the world and gave his 100 percent during those trips. They say travelling is the best education one can get and the children are blessed because he gave them that.

And because of his job and what he sees there, he is always thinking five steps ahead, for their safety, for our safety. 

And though he may not be physically present to their everything, they know that they can count on him to be "there". We went and got ice cream when we could, sometimes before dinner.

And guess what? Because he was off for Mother’s Day, it’s his turn to work Father's Day.

The "There" works differently in different situations. One just has to look at it through a different lens.

I hope everyone has a "there" father or a father figure in their lives.

Happy Father's Day to all the fathers who are always "there." Thank you for being there.

I and my children are blessed by one always "there" father.

My ramblings on this Father's Day.

Have you watched THIS IS US? I'm in love with this show.

 





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